One of the most agonizing experiences that everyone goes through in high school is liking someone who doesn’t like you back. I’d love to tell you that in 5 years it won’t matter, but on rare occasions that isn’t the case, and more importantly, no matter what I tell you – it’s never going to feel like it doesn’t matter at the time. I could also tell you that it builds character, but, like most things that “build character” heart ache like that sucks.
Instead, you want to know how to make that person like you back. While there is no magic formula that is guaranteed to work on the special someone who may or may not share your sentiments, there are ways to ensure that you are considered attractive and appealing to the opposite sex or your same sex, even if you’re a nerd and they’re a jock or vise versa.
The first and most important thing you need to do has two steps: the first step is to stop caring – not about everything, but about the way the object of your desires feels about you. This is not because you’re giving up, or because you don’t feel good about yourself. It is because of what you must do for step 2: be confident in yourself and what you have to offer. If you see it, and you show it, others will see it too. Beyond that, just be yourself, unabashedly. Changing yourself based on what (you think) other people want doesn’t do you any good, because they will only like you as long as you pander to them, and that’s not real like anyway.
If you can be classified by a label, by just one label, you are doing it wrong. Being a slut, a jock, a nerd, a goody-two-shoes, whatever, make sure there is more to you, because it’s high school, and there are always people who are going to put a label on you, whether you like it or not. Don’t get angry; don’t be bitter. Show them, show everyone just how different you are.
Learn to be ambivalent and indifferent all at the same time. The bad things people say should slide off you and the good things they say should stick. You, yourself should be nice. Be friendly – because then, everyone, not just person you like a whole lot, wants to like you. Being the person who is nice to everyone is certainly not gonna put you behind in a popularity contest – but remember to be that way, impervious. Be invincible to the opinions of others – whether they are good or bad, and you strength and individuality will make you more attractive and irresistible than you could be trying to fit in, more than you could ever imagine.